Just because I am single doesn't mean I am out looking to change that status. I like being single. I like being able to do what I want to do when I want to do it, without worrying about making sure I spend the right amount of time with someone. I like being able to go and eat whatever I'm in the mood for. It's awesome to be able to go and watch the movie I want to watch, every time, did I mention, every time. I get out of my car and I go to wherever I need to go. I walk in stores and down the sidewalks and never have to wait on anyone. I don't have to change my pace to match someone else's. No slowing down or speeding up. I walk what is comfortable for me. I get the couch, the bed, and the chair all to myself. I don't have to share or scoot over for anyone. Plus, I don't have to deal with issues. After spending all day listening to other's problems (which I don't mind at all) I get to spend my free time relaxing and processing my own thoughts, problems, concerns, etc. I don't have to spend my free time listening to my significant other complaining. I don't have to cuddle, hold hands or sit close to anyone, which is a huge plus for me because I am not a physical touch person.
Don't get me wrong, I am not against relationships. I know there are plenty of people out there who are in great relationships and they are happy. That's great. However, I do have a problem when people feel they need to be in a relationship. Just because you are single doesn't me there is something wrong with you. Single is not a disease and being single doesn't make you less of a person. I feel society puts so much pressure making it as if being single is something to be avoided. People get in relationships just to avoid feeling socially unaccepted. Or perhaps it's to avoid being asked those really annoying and dumb questions. You know to what questions I am referring. The questions like, "When are you planning on getting married?" Oh yeah because I have the date all planned out, the weeding cake is ordered, the flowers are on hold, and the church is booked, all I need is a groom. Sorry people, but typically you get the groom first then you plan the wedding. If I say I don't want to get married then people respond "Oh you'll change your mind with that special someone comes along." Ok well since I haven't met that special someone yet, I am not planning on getting married. If I happen to meet some special someone and I change my mind about marriage then fine. However, I am not going to just sit around all day and wonder when that might happen. Neither am I going to date every wrong guy out there until I do find someone I might consider marrying.
Or how about this one, "what's a pretty girl like you doing without a boyfriend?" Because I don't want one, especially one who thinks that's a good pickup line. Here's my favorite (please note sarcasm) "You're too pretty not to get married." What?!?! Since when did looks make a solid, trusting relationship? When did looks become the deciding factor as to whether you should marry or not? I might have a pretty face to someone now, but unfortunately, all the tucks, reworks, lifts, and surgeries in the world won't keep me looking this young forever. Looks have nothing to do with getting married. It may be one of the reasons why you first start talking to someone but it won't hold together a relationship.
I am happy just being myself and enjoying being with me. If one day I choose to share my life with someone then fine but it will be when I am ready, not just because society thinks I should be married by now. I want to live my life on my terms not how others think I should live. My life and right now I am quite happy to say I am single but not available.
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